Communication skills · lesson 16 of 24 · free

“I” statements and sharing feelings — Communication skills for students

When you are upset, it is easy to blame: “You always take my stuff!” The other person feels attacked and argues back. An “I” statement talks about your own feeling instead: “I feel upset when my things are taken without asking. I would like you to ask first.” It has four steps: how you feel, when it happens, why it matters, and what you would like. Nobody is blamed, so the other person can listen and help fix the problem.

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Communication tip

Start with “I”, not “you” — “share your feeling without blaming”

  1. The four steps in order: I feel… (name your feeling) → when… (the action) → because… (your reason) → I would like… (ask for a change).
  2. An “I” statement: “I feel left out when plans are made without me.”, “I get worried when you are late and don’t call.”
  3. A blaming “you” line: “You never include me!”, “You are so careless and late!”, “You cheat every time!” — turn each one into “I feel… when…”.

Use it for: Arguments with siblings and friends, feeling left out, and telling parents or teachers what is wrong.

Worked example: 🗣️ An “I” statement or a blaming “you” line? “You never include me!” → a blaming “you” line

  1. It starts with what “you” never do — it blames instead of sharing a feeling.
  2. So it is a blaming “you” line.

Check: Try it: next time something annoys you, say one full “I” statement — I feel… when… because… I would like… ✓

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